If you think about it, you may have noticed how often people try to find solutions to a problem without being sure what the problem actually is. You may also have noticed that attempting to resolve a problem in this manner is futile– in fact, it is nearly impossible!

In order to find a solution, it is essential to make acknowledging the problem your very first step – or put differently, what caused you to break up in the first place. While it would seem that this should “go without saying,” you would be surprised at how many people miss it entirely, and try to rush headfirst into possible solutions to getting back with an ex girlfriend without fully acknowledging what difficulties they are up against.

With this in mind, you can avoid the time-consuming, frustrating trap which too many fall into; and, instead, start at the beginning. The process of getting your ex back must be completed with patience, honesty and integrity.

You can begin by asking yourself what problems you and your ex girlfriend encountered. You will then know what difficulties need to be resolved, and what you wish to accomplish. A good way to go about this is to read this book, and after you have thought about the topics contained within, get together with your ex girlfriend for a discussion. You can share your thoughts and feelings, and ask your ex to share hers. Not only will this help in making progress toward finding solutions, it will also open up the lines of communication.

So, what kinds of problems occurred in your relationship? Did you and your ex girlfreind lose touch with each other from a basic lack of communication? Do you feel as if you have grown apart, and no longer feel as if you have an active place in each other’s lives? Are there disagreements, or arguments, over such factors as money, jobs, individual goals, and/or other people?

These, as well as most other factors which can cause a relationship to fall apart, can be resolved. You do not need a pile of “modern” books or other fads; and, except in the most extreme cases, you do not need “couples counseling” or therapy. You can begin to put your relationship back together, reconstruct the joy that you both experienced at the beginning, and use both that initial joy and your mature experiences to make your relationship stronger and happier than ever!

After you have put some careful thought into acknowledging what problems you are confronting, it is also important to decide what you wish to accomplish. Do you want more quality time with your ex girlfriend? Do you want to be able to come to agreements, or respect for different stands, on various important issues?

One important point to keep in mind is that goals for a relationship are as individual as the people are individual. What this means is that what may be ideal for your friend or your sibling may not be so ideal for you. Unfortunately, it may also mean that what you want is not the same as your ex girlfriend wants.

Have you assessed the problem and discovered the specific difficulties which you are confronting? Have you put careful thought into deciding on the goals you wish to accomplish? Good for you! You have taken the first important steps! Your relationship with your ex girlfriend is not only worth perservering and improving– you can make it happier and stronger than ever!

Don’t forget our recommended reading:

1 How To Turn Her Resistance Into Desperate Desire To Run Back To You
2 Retrieve A Lover - Cucan Pemo

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How to Attract A Woman: The Best Ways to Handle Physical Contact By Tiffany Taylor

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction. You can’t successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility – I.E. Before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction. And that right there is where the problem for many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl’s not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just “go for it” and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don’t want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he’s simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what’s the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore don’t appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that you’re a confident guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let’s take a look.

1. Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. The outside of a woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign that you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid to give it a try – you’ll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you’ve started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it’s important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you’ve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called ‘Stealth Tactility’ to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn’t know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swivelling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a ‘contact close’ when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think that the hard work’s been done once something’s been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.

Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the first time what goes on the minds of women AND how men can use special psychological and social techniques to attract and seduce them – regardless of their looks, bank balance or the car they drive. Attract And Seduce Women Today

Have You Got a Girlfriend? Here’s How Not to Screw It Up
By John Alexander

Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing. We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness, and then if we get dumped, we find that we’ve all of a sudden lost our confidence. This results in being without sex for many months, until we finally get a girlfriend again, and… the cycle repeats.

So to break this cycle, we need to REMAIN the attractive guy, the alpha male.

You see, relationships can make us guys too lazy (since the sex is so easy) and we lose that “high value” mindset. It’s crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says, “I am like a Lamborghini.”

Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people to like them? Of course not. Instead they allow all the buyers to come to them. Hell, Lamborghini doesn’t even advertise. As a man, you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend feels for you.

So, how do you keep that alpha mindset? First and foremost, avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy dog. A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call Punishment and Reward.

If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove of, punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something (or someone) else. If she does something you like (such as having sex with you), reward her by giving her more of your time, talking about her feelings, etc.

So whenever you do something nice for her, do it because you’re rewarding her. And DO reward her good behavior, if you want more of it. Like I said, Punishment and Reward.

Then there’s the issue of being a challenge. Women act sweet when you’re a challenge to them. They act bitchy when they take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort to win your affections.

Often by around month 6 in a relationship is when a woman really starts to take a guy for granted, so avoid that by remaining a challenge.

So the solution to remaining the attractive, alpha guy in your relationships is threefold:

1. Always be willing to focus your time on things other than your girlfriend. Don’t reward her for acting bitchy by continuing to be around her when she does. On the other hand, too, reward her for good behavior by giving her more of your time when she acts sweet.

2. Always have it in the back of your mind that you could end the relationship at any time. Don’t explicitly threaten her with that, but just make it a subtle implication. That way she’ll never become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep working to win you.

3. Always allow her to think that’s she’s just a little bit more interested in you than you are in her. Again, this can be very subtle, but if (for example) you’re telling her 20 times a day that you love her, and she’s only telling you that twice, then obviously the situation is badly out of whack.

John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male, a dating and seduction success system that will maximize your chances of getting and keeping that dream woman you’ve got your eye on.

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It is never impossible to get your ex girlfriend back! Pretty strong statement right?

I have secretly found out that my ex is casually seeing her ex again - only 2 months after splitting up with me and saying she needs to be on her own to sort her head out. Yeah, it feels like I’ve been lied to - but I do understand.

What makes me smile, is the fact that she’s not told anyone. Workmates/mutual friends have asked her directly if she’s seeing anyone - but she says no. I know that this is not true (doesn’t matter how I know - but I do!). She still cares enough to not want me to find out. If there were no feelings there, she would not care whether I knew or not!!

What I’ve heard a lot of recently is guys saying “my girlfriend says there is no chance of us getting back together, so there is no point in trying”!

Do you seriously think a girl splits up with a guy and says anything other than that?! What would be the point!

People get back together all the time. Sometimes it takes days, sometimes weeks, and sometimes months. Obviously not everyone gets back together. But, there is always a chance.

The only exception to this rule is usually if the relationship ended badly (i.e. cheating, violence etc).

Me and my ex have not fallen out, not bad mouthed each other. We have not been best of friends either, but have never argued or exchanged bad words.

I honestly believe that there is still love there on both sides. Obviously I can’t say for certain.

The message I’m trying to get across is - DO NOT GIVE UP! There is always a possibility. Unless of course, you start making all the classic mistakes that the majority of ex boyfriends make! To avoid these, and increase your chances of getting back your ex girlfriend, I recommend that you read How To Turn Her Resistance Into Desperate Desire To Run Back To You